I’m Tara, a Certified Relationship Coach & Writer.
I have a Bachelor's degree from Rhodes College (2008) and a Master's from the University of Memphis (2012), along with coaching certifications from Transformation Academy and courses fully accredited by Complementary Therapists Accredited Association (CTAA).
I absolutely love helping individuals and couples have the kind of happy and healthy relationships they've always wanted.
My practice began in 2016 when I was in the midst of the worst point in my life. I was trying to repair a broken marriage by throwing everything I could at it. I was reading books, attending individual and couples counseling/coaching as well as Recovering Couples Anonymous, attending women's retreats, acupuncture sessions, yoga classes, certification courses, and practicing daily meditation...You name it, I probably tried it.
I was helping individuals and couples work to have the relationship THEY wanted while I was struggling. My relationship advice articles on Medium, Mamamia, The Good Men Project, and Thought Catalog garnered more than 10 million views.
I believed that if I just worked harder, found the right book, met with the right counselor/coach, practiced new tools the right way, that my marriage could finally be what I wanted and hoped for.
In 2017, I came to this stunning realization:
"A relationship is only as healthy as its least healthy member."
This became an integral part of my coaching practice as well as something I had to take to heart myself. I realized that all of the work I'd put in didn't matter because my partner wasn't meeting me halfway (likely because he wasn't able to). I had to let go and move on.
Following the end of my first marriage, I took a break from coaching to work on myself. I addressed my deep-seated issues with codependency, negative self-talk, anxious attachment, and trauma. After some time, I started the crazy task of dating as a single mom.
Today, I'm married to a wonderful man, whom I met on TINDER of all places (😂). We have the happy and healthy relationship I always dreamed of having. Our relationship is far from perfect, but we both work every day to make it great. We have four children, including a baby girl born in 2020.
It is one of my greatest joys today helping my clients achieve what I was able to do myself. We all deserve happy and healthy relationships. Even you. Even me.
A note on my name: Tara "Ball" started out as a pen name for my writing back in 2016, a way to protect my children and my family since I wrote about sensitive subjects. As I grew in popularity and chose to meld my pen name and my real life, I decided to keep my pen name. My first name IS Tara, and all of my clients are welcome to learn my real last name if they so choose.